Posts Tagged ‘wedding dress’

Connecticut and Rhode Island wedding attire, The White Dress by the Shore: Ten Tips on Finding the Perfect Wedding Gown

Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

Connecticut, and Rhode Island wedding attire, The White Dress by the Shore, is featured on my Kate Parker Wedding.  Beth Chapman, of The White Dress by the Shore, shares ten tips for selecting a wedding gown.  In order to get the best experience (and the best dress) check out Beth’s tips!

Connecticut and Rhode Island Wedding Attire: The White Dress by the Shore

10 Tips For Selecting The Perfect Wedding Gown

Selecting a wedding gown is often one of the first steps that a bride takes as she embarks on the journey of her engagement.  Finding the perfect gown is an exciting, but often daunting task.  Following are 10 tips that will help to make the experience memorable, enjoyable and lead to the gown of your dreams.

1.  Secure your wedding date and venue

Before beginning to shop for your gown, you should have your wedding date and venue secured.  Your decision will be much easier to make if you can envision yourself wearing your gown in the setting of your wedding.

2.  Set a budget

In creating your wedding budget, be sure to include a realistic budget for your wedding attire.  Your budget should include an allocation for not only the gown, but accessories (bra, veil, jewelry and shoes), alterations and gown cleaning and preservation after the wedding.

It is very important to articulate your budget to the sales associate when shopping for your gown.  You do not want to fall in love with something that does not fit your budget.

3.  Do your research

Prior to beginning to shop, research salons that carry designers that meet your taste level and budget.

Evaluate the types of stores that you like to shop in for your everyday clothes and be sure that you select the correct shopping environment for you.  If you are a department store shopper, a larger bridal salon with a large selection of gowns may be the right fit for you.  If you prefer to shop in small boutiques, then a smaller, more intimate bridal store would most likely be best for you.

Visit the salon’s website before calling to set an appointment to ensure that the selection and price range meets your needs.  It is also helpful to read the bridal blogs to find out what other brides to be have to say about the stores that you plan to visit.

4.  Plan ahead

Call to schedule an appointment a minimum of one week in advance.  By scheduling an appointment, it allows the salon to provide you with their undivided attention and have a sales associate dedicated specifically to you.

Keep in mind that it takes approximately 4-6 months to produce a wedding gown.  You should begin shopping for your gown a minimum of 8 months in advance of the wedding to allow enough time for alterations once the gown arrives.

5.  Limit opinions

This is a momentous and joyous time in your life, so naturally you want to share it with your family and friends.  Be careful however of bringing a large group with you to shop for your gown.  Too many opinions can be detrimental to making a decision.

If you have bridesmaids or family members who insist on being part of the process, a suggestion might be to shop with 1-2 very close family members or friends who understand and respect your personal style.  Once you have finalized your decision, then you can bring back other people to show them the gown that you have decided on.

The key is to remember to take opinions into consideration, but ultimately you know yourself best.  Your opinion is truly the only one that matters- It is your day and you are the one wearing the gown.

6.  Communicate

Bring photographs of styles that interest you and articulate your vision and budget to the sales associate that you are working with.

Don’t be afraid to speak up if you don’t like something.  Who knows- perhaps there is something that can be done to the gown to make it perfect for you!

Before making the final decision on your gown, be sure that you understand the policies of the salon at which you are purchasing it.  Ask about their policies for gown deposit, alterations and whether or not you will receive a discount on bridesmaid dresses if you purchase a gown there.

7.  Reflect your personal style

Don’t use your wedding day as the day to make a fashion statement!  Your gown should flatter your best physical assets, reflect the formality and overall aesthetic of your venue and most importantly reflect your own personal style.

8.  Don’t be alarmed by the size

Bridal sizing is different from ready to wear sizing.  In many cases, a bridal gown is 2 sizes larger than what you would wear in your every day clothes.  Once you have selected your gown, the bridal salon will take your measurements.  Those measurements will be compared to the designer’s size chart and the appropriate size will be selected for you.  Keep in mind that a gown can be altered up to two sizes.  Even if you are planning on losing weight, it best to go with the size that you are measuring at the time of purchase and alter the gown once it arrives.  Never order a size based on the size that you ‘plan to be’!

9.  A beautiful gown starts with the perfect foundation

Undergarments are called foundations for a reason!  The proper undergarments truly make all of the difference in the fit of the gown.  After your gown is purchased, take time to select the perfect undergarments.  It is best to shop in a location that specializes in foundations so that you are sized correctly.

While selecting your undergarments it is important to take into consideration several factors~

Select a bra or bustier that has a lower back than that of the gown so that the bra cannot be seen.

Ensure that if your bra has lace, texture or boning, that they are not visible through the gown.

If your gown is a column silhouette or made of a light weight fabric ensure that your undergarments provide you with enough support and that there are no noticeable seams or panty lines.

10.  Understand the alterations process

Alterations are truly a process.  It will take time to sculpt the gown to fit your body perfectly.  When purchasing your gown you should factor in a minimum of 2 months for alterations.  If the store where you are purchasing your gown does not offer alterations, ask if they can recommend a reputable seamstress.

There a generally a minimum of 3 alterations involved in perfecting the fit of the gown.  When purchasing your gown, you should inquire about the salon’s policies on alterations and their fee structure.

It is imperative that you have your shoes and undergarments selected when the alterations process begins.  It is impossible to ensure a proper fit without those elements.

If you are planning on losing weight, you should not begin the alterations process until your weight is stable.

**Bonus tip:
Enjoy the experience

The most important tip is to HAVE FUN!!  How often in life will you be able to try on beautiful gowns and be treated like a princess?  Enjoy every minute of it!

The key is to make sure that you are working with a salon that maximizes your bridal shopping experience and allows you to feel comfortable in your buying decision.

HAPPY SHOPPING!!!!

Beth Chapman is founder and owner of The White Dress by the shore, a couture bridal boutique located in an antique home in historic Clinton Connecticut.  The boutique features couture bridal gowns, accessories and chic attire for mothers and maids. For more information visit www.thewhitedressbytheshore.com.

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Old School Wedding, Flashback to 1978

Monday, February 15th, 2010

Today we are flashing back to 1978, a year of floral bridesmaids gowns, Eric Clapton, and 63 cent gallons of gas.  Thanks to come os Kate’s twitter friends for giving us inspiration for 1978: @STweddings, @BrokeAssBride, @KeliMorris, @ladolcevitawed, and @melissakoren.  Check out the world of weddings in our 1978 flashback!

Most popular first dance song: Eric Clapton – The Way You Look Tonight

More Eric Clapton music on iLike

Lets all take a moment to reflect on this 1978 crocheted wedding gown,

featured in the Spring edition of McCalls Needlework & Crafts magazine.

1978 crochet wedding dress

See this image on Flickr

Average gallon of gas: .63 — What!?

Average cost of a new house: $54,800

http://www.thepeoplehistory.com/1978.html

http://www.1970sflashback.com/1978

Celebrities Born in 1978:

Ashton Kutcher, Kobe Bryant, and Josh Hartnett were born in 1978.

http://www.thepeoplehistory.com/1978.html

Fads in 1978:

The lava lamp, pet rocks, earth shoes and mood rings.

http://susanparks.blogspot.com/2008/05/prices-and-fads-in-1978.html

1978 Wedding Flashback

1978 Wedding Flashback

1978 Wedding Fashion:

Old School Wedding: 1978

A happy new family in 1978.

Old School Wedding: 1978

Loving the floral bridesmaids gowns with matching hats and matching flower baskets … all of which match the brides bouquet.

Old School Wedding: 1978

Check out these shades and that bow tie, an undoubtedly cool groom in 1978.


Connecticut Wedding Attire: The Plumed Serpent Bridal

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

Connecticut wedding attire, The Plumed Serpent Bridal, is a new member of the my Kate Parker Wedding family!  The Plumed Serpent Bridal has a variety of gowns for each bride to choose from, along with accessories, shoes, and veils.  They also have bridesmaids gowns, mother of the bride attire, and flower girl dresses.  Their collections will please any taste and any wedding style.  Check out some of their attire below!  ~ AY

Connecticut Wedding Attire: The Plumed Serpent, Collections

Dress from The Plumed Serpent Collection, Annie Girl

Connecticut Wedding Attire: The Plumed Serpent, Collections

Dress from The Plumed Serpent Collection, Coren Moore

Connecticut Wedding Attire: The Plumed Serpent, Collections

Gown from The Plumed Serpent

Connecticut Wedding Attire: The Plumed Serpent, Collections

Shoes from The Plumed Serpent Collection, Grace Footwear

Connecticut Wedding Attire: The Plumed Serpent, Collections

Gown from The Plumed Serpent Collection, Rivini

The Plumed Serpent Bridal
Website: www.plumedserpentbridal.com
Blog: www.plumedserpentbridal.com
my Kate Parker Wedding State and Budget: CT and RI, $50-80k and $80k+

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Industry Icon- Modern Trousseau

Tuesday, December 15th, 2009

I had the pleasure of chatting with dress designer, Callie Tein, of Modern Trousseau, yesterday afternoon.  I so enjoyed learning about her background, her passion for wedding gowns, and some very interesting tips, which I’ll share with you today!  ~KP

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Callie grew up in Melbourne, Australia and studied fashion design at the Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology.  Before heading to the United States to pursue her goal as a wedding gown designer, she designed woman’s wear, children’s wear, and wedding gowns with a very prominent Australian designer.

While living in Connecticut, Callie has been designing Modern Trousseau gowns for the past five years, after launching her first line of gowns with Beth Chapman of the White Dress by the Shore in Clinton, CT.  Callie made her first collection of 6 gowns herself, including all of the sewing, and was an instant hit with Connecticut brides. With the exception of their fabrics, which come from Italy and France, everything needed to make the gowns is produced in Woodbridge, CT.

Five years later, including many showings at Bridal Market in NYC, Modern Trousseau is carried in over 30 stores across the country and was recently featured on the cover of the October 2009 Inside Wedding Magazine.

Callie is a business owner and mother of two daughters, 11 and 13 years old.  Speaking with a fellow mom about the trials and struggles of attempting to “have it all,” we both decided that balance is a lovely, but usually unattainable, goal.  “I’ve missed a Halloween or a birthday because I’m traveling for a trunk show.  You can’t really win either way- you just have to do the best you can.  I always admired my mum because she was a business owner and a mother and I appreciated her work ethic.  That’s probably why I became a business owner myself.”

When we discussed her 2010 collection of gowns and how she designs and works with her stores, the interview took a mind of its own…

KP: Do you visit all of your stores across the country?

CT: Absolutely.  Having trunk shows is how we do our research.  We want to see what the brides are looking for, what they love, what they’d like us to change.  I have to keep all of my brides in mind when creating our collections.

KP: How do you design keeping your brides in mind?

CT: Well, for our CA brides, we have to create something relaxed and even a bit bohemian.  We need something lightweight for southern brides because it gets so hot down there!  We have fairly conservative brides in New England so we have to remember where are brides are coming from when we think about our collections.

KP: How do you think about the design process?

CT: We think about the fit, first and foremost.  After having trunk shows and doing our research, I start sketching.  From there I drape on a mannequin in muslin.  I make the pattern after I drape, which is a little backwards for some people, and we break down the garment and start over again.  With some technical changes a dress can take anywhere from 2-3 days to 2-3 weeks to design.  Sometimes I’ll be designing 2-3 dresses at the same time too.

KP: Does the sketch and the final product look the same?

CT: Sometimes yes, sometimes no.  I’ve had sketches and final gowns that are identical and others that just couldn’t work for a number of reasons.  We listen and watch the fabric a lot.  The fabric tells us what it can and can’t do and sometimes we think a design will work, but the draping just doesn’t. I remember working on Autumn from our 2010 collection and we were about to photograph the gown and I didn’t feel right about it so I started cutting up the lace.  Everyone thought I was crazy and I was hoping my hunch was right… good thing I did it though, the final gown was perfect!

KP: Do you have a fabric you love working with?

CT: Silk organza, because it’s light, soft and floaty.  I also love the structure of silk duchess.  All of our fabrics are silk, we don’t work with blends at all.

KP: Do you have any tips for brides when thinking about their gowns?  How about who should wear a strapless gown?

CT: I never like telling people what type of body should wear one of my designs.  I feel like anyone can wear something if it’s made well and fitted beautifully.  For a strapless dress, the construction and integrity has to come from the waist of the garment.  The waist is the smallest part of the body so the gown can’t fall below that.  If you have a larger chest, have the front of the dress raised up for better coverage, but make sure it’s up and not out and away from the body.  Also, anyone wearing a strapless gown should consider small spaghetti straps for their reception.  Wear your gown strapless for the ceremony and for pictures, but put on a pair of small straps for your reception so you can enjoy the night, dancing away.  You would be amazed how much support those little straps actually provide.

KP: When should a dress be ordered?

CT: I would say 12 months.  The challenge is if a bride is getting married a year from now, she needs her gown 9 months before so she has 2-3 months for her fittings. That immediately shortens our time to work on each gown.  Sometimes we order our lace from Paris and they often close for the summer so we have to be VERY organized.

KP: Can you rush an order?

CT: Yes, it’s not easy, but we’ve done it.  There was a lovely bride who had a terrible medical reason and needed her dress before going through surgery so we created her gown in 2 weeks.

KP: How does a bride know when the dress is THE DRESS?

CT: Sometimes I’ve seen projectile tears, sometimes a bride just sees a dress knows it’s the one before she tries it on.  Other times it’s a process- eventually narrowing it down to one single gown.

KP: Any tips for brides going dress shopping?

CT: Make sure the salon you’re visiting actually have the gown you want to see.  An average collection a salon carries of one designer is about 6 gowns.  If you visit that designer’s website and find a dress you love and want to try, and that salon carries that designer, they might not carry that exact dress.  Call ahead and request the style and see if they have it.  If not, they can usually request the gown from the designer and can schedule your appointment according.  Some salons charge a fee for this service; some will take it off of your total if and when you purchase the gown.

KP: Anything else you’d like to share for our readers?

CT: I tell this to every bride I work with.  After you’re married, if you can take your dress to the honeymoon- especially if it’s a sheath and easy to pack- I highly suggest you take it with you.  Pick a night and put your dress back on, walk down the beach with your husband.  No one will bother you because you look like a bride.  Even better, go to a bar and you’ll get free drinks all night long!  I promise your husband will ask you to put it on again back home to get the free drinks again…

Here are some of Modern Trousseau’s fabulous designs!

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Wedding Industry Icon: Sylvia Weinstock

Wednesday, November 18th, 2009

I actually can’t believe Sylvia Weinstock called my cell phone!  Still getting over the shock as we speak.  I met Sylvia a few years ago at her studio and I remember tasting her buttercream at 8:00 am and just taking in the fact that I was meeting THE icon of our industry.  She is so warm and inviting, easy to talk and relate to, and I appreciated the time she took to meet with me so very much.  I recently saw Sylvia again in Las Vegas at Engage 09: The Encore and I was taken back by the fact that Sylvia and her husband sat in the audience like everyone else taking in everything Engage had to offer.  When I emailed requesting this interview, we received a response within a few hours and I just got off the phone with her this morning.  What a wonderful experience I get to share with all of you!  Enjoy the interview – I know I did immensely. ~ KP

New York Cake Designer - Sylvia Weinstock

KP: What is your favorite part of the wedding process?

SW: I enjoy meeting with the bride, discussing what she wants and what she doesn’t want.  Sometimes she brings in photos of cakes she has seen that she likes, sometimes we work off of the different aspects of her wedding design- the invitation, her wedding dress, the flowers, overall décor.

KP: What do you love most about your job in the wedding industry?

SW: I love meeting people.  I love sitting down for an appointment and learning about each couple and their wedding.  I love the creative process of designing our cakes based on their personality and décor.

KP: What is the biggest misconception about your industry?

SW: That we’re overpriced, which we’re not.  You are paying for the highest quality ingredients and most importantly an artist’s time and process.  Sometimes I’ll take a client to see the actual sugar flower creation process, so they understand that this is a very labor-intensive business.  A cake with 100 large roses each with 20 petals will take an entire week to make from scratch.

KP: How did you get into the wedding industry?

SW: I made very delicious cakes for family and friends and people thought I should sell them.  No one was being innovative when it came to beautiful cakes and we started the business of making beautiful and delicious cakes.  That was 1975.  I did some apprenticeships with some master pastry chefs as well.

KP: Tell me one wedding vendor other than in your industry you highly recommend?

SW: Giving you one name is like asking a mother to pick her favorite child! There are a number of wedding planners and florists that I recommend and work with often.  Harriette Rose Katz because she has been doing this a long time, she is detailed, knows food and wine, and she’s great at what she does.  Marcy Blum is also wonderful.  For florists, there’s Preston, David Beahm- he is such a sweet and down to earth person, Ed Libby, and Dejuan Stroud.  All of these people are amazing and are not divas at all.

KP: Tell me one wedding vendor in your industry you highly recommend and why?

SW: We keep our blindfolds on at all times.  We work within our own industry and keep ourselves as innovative as we can.  I feel that some people copy and do not create and we want to always be creating.

KP: Favorite wedding story- funny or serious.

SW: We’ve been fortunate and haven’t had any horror stories directly related to our staff, but we created a 1,000 person wedding cake for an Indian wedding once and after we left and signed off on the delivery someone decided to move the cake.  They forgot to lock the legs of the table and the entire cake toppled over.

KP: What other part of the industry would you not want to work in and why?

SW: I wouldn’t want to be a dishwasher.  Dishwashers are VERY important people, but I wouldn’t want to be a dishwasher.

KP: I wouldn’t want to deliver a wedding cake!

SW: There’s a lot of tension when delivering a wedding cake.  You are only in control of your vehicle and can’t control everyone else around you.  When we ship our cakes we only use Continental.  They take great care of us.  Our cakes are the last items put in cargo and the first ones off ☺

KP: What differentiates you from the rest of your industry peers?

SW: Our quality of ingredients.  We only work with butter cream, no fondant.  I don’t eat it so I won’t serve it. Our ingredients don’t allow our cakes to sit on a shelf for a week.  We are also original in terms of our designs.

I asked Sylvia for some other thoughts on our industry and here’s what she had to say…

KP: How many cakes do you create per week?

SW: Depends, anywhere from just a few to up to 20.

KP: What’s your minimum?

SW: We have a $500.00 minimum and that’s a dinner cake for 20-25 people

KP: Do you assemble your cakes on-site or in-house?

SW: If it’s a very ornate or large cake, we’ll assemble on-site.  Many of our cakes are pre-assembled in our studio.  We have a woodshop that helps construct the bases for our cake tiers.  It’s a whole production!

KP: How much do your cakes typically cost?

SW: Our cakes cost anywhere from $17-$20 per slice.
(KP: That is MUCH more reasonable than what I think the industry realizes!)

KP: As a wedding planner, do you have any advice for me?

SW: I think a lot of party planners don’t understand how to deal with venues properly.  You are on someone else’s turf and should tread quietly instead of making a lot of noise.  It is an honor for you to be working in an establishment and you should be there to help in any way.  This industry should be about team efforts.  I can remember stepping foot in a male kitchen for the first time.  Most kitchens were all male, and often times led by a French chef.  I said, “ I am so honored to be allowed to breathe your air,” and they were much nicer to me after that- even bent over a little bit backwards.

KP: Did the economy affect your business this year?

SW: Yes, of course it did.  Anyone who says they weren’t affected by the economy is lying to you.  We had lower guest counts, brides who wanted bargains.  They are not spending the way they used to and I don’t think they will ever spend the multi-millions they did before.  Hopefully this spring will be a bit better and by fall we will be closer to where we were in past seasons.  Destination weddings are also affecting our businesses because it’s easier to take 25 people to an island than to have a big expensive party.  We allow our clients to pick up their cakes a few days before their event if they have a walk in cooler they can store the cake in.  That will save them their delivery fee, which can be quite expensive.  Lots of our clients in Maryland and Pennsylvania choose to pick up themselves.  We box the cake and give them ice packs.  We would deliver it the same way, so why not let them do it and save a bit of money?

Sylvia asked me if brides in my area were spending a lot on their cakes and I said that they weren’t prioritizing cakes as much as food, music and photography.  This is what she had to say about that:

SW: I think that’s too bad.  The cake is the showstopper.  It’s the dessert.  You don’t need to spend $10 a person on a favor.  Their favor is being invited to your wedding.  The cake is the WOW factor.

New York Cake Designer - Sylvia Weinstock

New York Cake Designer - Sylvia Weinstock

New York Cake Designer - Sylvia Weinstock

New York Cake Designer - Sylvia Weinstock

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A Heartfelt Wedding Story

Friday, November 13th, 2009

Since my Kate Parker Wedding is all about finding the best wedding vendors in our industry, we get so excited for our my KPW family members when they’re featured in other publications, both online and in print.  After we originally posted this story, Style Me Pretty asked to feature this incredible bride and groom in an all day post-a-thon! We wanted to show you more of this beautiful wedding experience and we also wanted to throw a shout out to the fabulous vendors who were involved in such a selfless act of kindness.  To go to Style Me Pretty and read the many stories, click on one of the links below:

Veterans Day Wedding

Veterans Day Wedding, Part II

Veterans Day Wedding, Part III

Veterans Day Wedding, Part IV

Veterans Day Wedding, Part V

Veterans Day Wedding, Part VI

Here’s what we originally posted about this wedding, and wanted to repost for those who missed it the first time.

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When someone is kind enough to donate their resources to help others who are in need, it is always something that should be recognized.  We would like to thank some of our my Kate Parker Wedding family members including Amber Small of Sweetest Thing Weddings, Judy Bourgeois of Flora Fauna, The Retreat at French’s Point and Sperry Tents for being so generous in providing their services to help a deserving couple with their beautiful October 16th, 2009 wedding.

Check out the full story featured in the New York Times.

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Maine Wedding - Gita and Aron

Maine Wedding - Gita and AronCredit to Real Weddings Maine, Audra Photography, David Murray Photography, Michelle Turner Photography, Stacey Kane Photography

Sweetest Thing Weddings
Phone: (207) 907-6484
Website: www.sweetestthingweddings.com
Email: sweetestthingweddings@gmail.com
myKPW State and Budget: ME $50k-$80k and $80k+

The Retreat at French’s Point
Phone: 207.567.3650
Website: www.rfpmaine.com
Email: events@rfpmaine.com
myKPW State and Budget: ME: < $25K, $25k-$50k, $50k-$80k and $80k+

Flora Fauna
Phone:207.650.3563
Website: www.florafaunaevents.com
Email: florafaunadesigns@yahoo.com
myKPW State and Budget: ME $50k-$80k and $80k+
Sperry Tents Seacoast
Phone:1.877.SPERRYT
Website: www.sperrytentsseacoast.com
Email: info@sperrytentsseacoast.com
myKPW State and Budget:
ME $25k-$50k, $50k-$80K and$80k+
NH $25k-$50k, $50k-$80k
MA $50k-$80k and $80k+
VT $50k-$80k and $80k+
CT $50k-$80k and $80k+
RI $50k-$80k and $80k+
NY and Westchester County $50k-$80k and $80k+
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