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Involving the Groom: Brian Leahy and “The Stranger Groom”

Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010

This week, Brian Leahy is featured discussing his new found camaraderie with a “stranger groom” in my Kate Parker Wedding series, Involving the Groom.  Let’s skip a lengthy introduction since the amazing-ness of this grooms writing speaks for itself.  So dive right in and enjoy!

FROM ACROSS THE ROOM

So it doesn’t play out quite like that old song — the one where the guy is alone at a party, meets someone’s eyes across the room and pushes through the sea of bodies to meet somewhere in the middle — but we grooms do tend to find other grooms at social functions. It’s instinctual. In the manliest of ways, we seek out other grooms.

Meeting a fellow groom at The Room bar in Hollywood last night, I realized that grooms have a connection that transcends that of “best buds” or “homies” or “BFFs.” This stranger groom and I shared one strong common bond: we are both knee-deep in these chaotic wed-ventures spearheaded by the two women standing beside us. We’re interconnected in that way.

Amongst other things, we joked about the 10-Second Rule, also known as the Commercial Break Rule: if a bride senses at least a 10-second window (whether you’re driving, showering, shaving, moving furniture or handling smoldering hot metals), they will jump in with a wedding-related topic. Similarly, it happens at nearly every commercial break, between bites at dinner and that precise moment when you climb into bed, pull the covers over you and completely shut down.

“Honey, while I have you here, tell me what you’re thinking for ceremony music.”

The same rule applies to Gmail Chat, Skype or any other internet-based conferencing service. It may take 5X as long to type out the conversation, but no matter. It’s now off of her shoulders and onto your plate.

Stranger groom and I both knew that this chance meeting had somehow rescued the evening. There was a new-found camaraderie. A sense of brotherhood. We laughed. We cried. We clinked glasses of overpriced beer and then carried on with our lives, wishing each other (above anything else) luck. And when my 2E’s took the 40-second walk to the car to discuss whether or not our mothers should wear corsages at the wedding ceremony, I had the strength to nod and smile. Thanks stranger groom.

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Involving The Groom: Brian Leahy on How to Get the Cookie

Wednesday, January 20th, 2010

This week, Brian Leahy charms us yet again in the my Kate Parker Wedding series, Involving The Groom.  Enjoy!

GET THE COOKIE

As a child, my primary objective was always to get the cookie. The bakery corner at our local supermarket had an unspoken principle: the ladies behind the counter — sporting hair nets and translucent gloves — would hand out treats to patrons under the age of 10. With my boyish looks and the aid a daily moisturizer, I was able to milk this cookie charity until the age of sixteen. Oftentimes I would wear a hat and sweater on the first lap, discard the accessories in Frozen Entrees and return for seconds with a poor excuse for an Irish accent. This was just my way.

Ten years later and nothing’s changed. I’m still that little boy lurking behind yesterday’s pastries.

My fiancee with 2E’s will blow through an entire to-do list on any given Saturday. Me — I need the whole weekend just to make the list. Last night, between the hours of 9PM and 10PM, she managed to churn out three pages of notes for our caterer and florist and seek out medicine jars and other vintage decor elements online. In the same time frame, I managed to churn out two episodes of Dexter and seek out a pen that had slipped between the sofa cushions.

The key to staying on target, I’ve found, is reminding yourself to get the cookie. Grooms — don’t be overwhelmed by your bride’s ability to multitask and avoid distraction. It’s not a competition, after all. And remember – each “thing” that you bring to the table is going to yield a reward*. A pat on the head. A high-five. Perhaps a cookie. For instance, in the past week, my 2E’s has accomplished roughly 32 tasks related to our wedding. I have accomplished one.

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I added a single image to our digital inspiration board: Coca-Cola in a bucket. And not only does it match perfectly with our color combo (what she refers to as “wine and ice” … more commonly known as “red and blue”), but she adores the concept of cold beverages in buckets to augment our outdoor ceremony. I only slightly exaggerate when I say that she was beyond thrilled. And in honor of this not-so-minor achievement, 2E’s asked me to leave the kitchen momentarily while she reunited with her secret stash, removed the porcelain lid and extracted a single chocolate chip cookie. Two cookies if I spare her the poor excuse for an Irish accent. This is just our way.

*Win a free Groom Points scorecard with The Groom Says and begin tracking your rewards! Just comment on the Groom Giveaway post and explain why your groom is most deserving of a limited edition scorecard. Contest ends tomorrow, so click now to enter: http://thegroomsays.blogspot.com/2010/01/groom-giveaway.html.

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Introducing Brian Leahy in the New my Kate Parker Wedding Series: Involving The Groom

Wednesday, January 13th, 2010

Every Wednesday my Kate Parker Wedding will be featuring a new inspirational series, Involving The Groom, written by Brian Leahy, a witty and thoroughly entertaining Groom.  His hilarious approach to the Groom’s perspective of wedding planning is a perfect series for Grooms, or anyone for that matter, to enjoy.  I guarantee there will be some serious lol-ing.

Introducing the man himself:  Brian Leahy is the author of The Groom Says, a new blog that details a year of wedding planning from the groom’s perspective. Stop by daily for inappropriate advice and an inadequate dose of inspiration as Brian and his 2E’s plan their October 2010 wedding.

TODAY IS WEDNESDAY, AND YOU’RE A GROOM

Imagine for a moment that you’re a groom.

Like most days, today is about squeezing in as much man-time into the waking hours as possible. Naturally, you’ll begin your day with a compilation of intense rugby tackles on YouTube; later this morning you’ll stop at Outdoor World and admire fishing lines … Home Depot and their new auto-hammer. You’ll play video games. You’ll have a chili dog. You’ll drink from a flask. Today is Wednesday, and you’re a groom. This is how you get by.

You do all this because (between rounds of golf and rounds of ammunition at the local shooting range) you’re bombarded by emails. Antique lamps on Craigslist. Letterpress invitations on etsy. A photograph of a bouquet that is neither the right size nor the right flower assortment but is the perfect shade of “ice.”

Your fiancée wants input and opinions and cooperation. She wants you to shed your masculine shell and design something; contribute something; suggest something for chrissake. She begs (or, rather, demands) your company as she breaks into this frightening, unfamiliar world of wedding planning. A world where you tackle to-do lists, not teammates. A world where Y chromosomes are all but welcome. And what choice do you have? What in god’s name could you possibly contribute? Where do we begin?

Well, as with everything, it begins on the toilet.

The funny thing is that the subscription was my post-engagement present. A “happy planning” gift to my betrothed. And now they come every month, miraculously. Like Gremlins they appear to multiply on their own, accompanying us everywhere, soaking up valuable real estate on desks and coffee tables and passenger seats. Our brides-to-be have set aside (in some cases, recycled) our Maxims and Men’s Healths and have conveniently placed The Knot beside The John.

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Well, bridal magazines, I’m not going to sit idly by, sipping from my monogrammed flask. Rather, I am proposing a peaceful co-existence. As Martin Luther did in 1517, I hereby nail these 95 Theses to the chapel door … only I’ve chopped it down to 5 theses, which are less like “theses” and more like “pointers,” and I’ve only theoretically nailed it to the door of the chapel in my mind.

1. Get our attention, editors-in-chiefdom! You’ve lived with our kind for long enough. You know what turns us on. To get us involved and intrigued, begin by accompanying every wedding gown advertisement with one for a classic German beer boot. Accompany every clutch purse collage with an assortment of Hodinkee-approved, high-end watches; pair tips on styling your wedding day hair with tips on registering for the perfect knife set.

We don’t mind the abundance of models in designer dresses (trust us), but perhaps some can be holding mini-burgers rather than bouquets. You know us. We like camping gear. Sword fights. Shark bites. A two-page spread of a tank. These are just ideas. We’re flexible.

2. Kill the traditional tux ads and replace them with modern spins on the groom’s attire: Brooklyn-inspired, custom-designed Converse sneakers, or Blank Label’s co-created dress shirts. The days of the typical, paint-by-number tuxedo are long gone. And let’s face it, you brides love it when your man expresses some originality … when it’s within the designated color palette.

3. Men need page numbers. We don’t know when or why or how the trend began, but we need them back. We need to know how far we are into this 450-page graphic novel of sorts at all times. We’ll get lost somewhere between La Soie and Mon Amie and, no, we won’t ask for directions.

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Even better … suggest a page where we should begin reading. “Grooms … skip ahead to page 412.” No problem! You might consider attaching a little Post-It flag to the top so we can easily thumb our way to the back. We won’t be offended.

Ooo, I feel a Choose-Your-Own-Adventure issue coming on…

4. Keep up the more recent fad of showcasing the imperfect, everyday groom. Guys like guys with mismatching socks, disheveled hair, a gut and a sense of humor. No Calvin Klein model grooms, please.

5. Make our voices heard with groom experts who can introduce new trends, venues, gifts, gadgets and tips for grooms on how to contribute to the wedding without compromising taste or machismo. After all, a bride’s best insight into the mind of the groom is going to come from a groom himself.

Anyway, thanks for reading, bridal magazines. And when you’re through getting through it all, I’d love to get my desk back.

cheers,
the groom

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Industry Icon – David Beahm Design

Friday, November 13th, 2009

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We have been fortunate enough to work with David and his team on a some New England weddings over the past few years and I can’t put into words how amazing he is to work with.  David is one of the most talented and well-known floral and event designers in our industry and he was so accommodating to our clients and down to earth that it was an absolute pleasure doing business with his team.  I am thrilled to be starting our Industry Icons blog series with David Beahm Designs.  You will be thrilled as well when you read his interview and see some of his incredible work.  Enjoy the new series!

KP

www.davidbeahm.com

KP: What is your favorite part of the wedding process?

DB: My favorite moment is stealthfully stealing the bride away from cocktail hour and leading her hand-in-hand to see the finished dinner space with the lighting focused and all the candles lit.  Watching her face as the doors open makes me so happy.

KP: What do you love most about your job in the wedding industry?

DB: I think all of us in this industry are in it to make people happy – so the industry is full of really great people with which to socialize, which makes working with them a breeze.  The mantra at David Beahm Design is we only hire nice people and we only work with nice people.  It’s a celebration, so the process should be a wonderful experience.

KP: What is the biggest misconception about your industry?

DB: The biggest misconception about our industry is that we are out to get rich off of one party.  It’s not rocket science, but the professional services we provide are extraordinarily detailed and take a tremendous amount of time, organization to execute, and experience.  We allow people to enjoy their big day and not be bogged down in the detailed minutia that make a wonderful wedding but it takes an army of people to make it happen – ON TIME.  I make sure that I hire the best designers available, pay them well, feed them well, and create a good working experience so that the product we give the happy couple is a reflection of that.  But as we all know, labor is a most expensive commodity and it adds up fast.  Yes, certainly our goal is to make a profit and sustain our business, but a LOT of the client’s money flows right back out into the economy.  I encourage my clients to look at their weddings like their very own stimulus package!

KP: How did you get into the wedding industry?

DB: My mom is an artist, my dad was in hotel/restaurant, my godparents own a flower shop and I was in theatre – I think it was destiny!

KP: Tell me one wedding vendor other than in your industry you highly recommend and why?

DB: Mark Ingram at the Bridal Atelier by Mark Ingram is just about the nicest guy you could ever meet and so talented and HONEST about what you look like in a dress – if it’s not right, he’ll tell you – what could be more valuable than that?

KP: Tell me one wedding vendor in your industry you highly recommend and why?

DB: Ed Libby and I have become really good friends and maintain a mutual admiration society, at times even recommending our clients to each other.  I’ve been in a consultation and said, “You have to go see Ed.  He’s the one for you!” And Ed’s done the same thing for me.  There’s no ego; it’s just about getting the right fit and making the client happy at the end of the day.

KP:  Favorite wedding story – funny or serious.

DB: A good friend got married in Central Park.  It was the perfect spring day, the bride and groom’s parties strolled from opposite sides of the park and met at the bandstand where, just perchance, a band was playing “Seasons of Love” as we all came together.  After an absolutely beautiful, tear-jerking ceremony, the groom had arranged a surprise: a marching band playing really wonderful, funky music came around the corner as they were pronounced husband and wife.   The band then led everyone to the Bethesda Fountain where we danced.  At that point a gondolier pulled up on the pond and took the bride and groom on a ride around the boat basin as we continued to have a great time. It was perfect and so unique.

KP:  What other part of the industry would you not want to work in? Why?

DB: Have you ever visited the beading room at Kleinfeld?  I would not be even a little pleasant after even one hour of adjusting the beading on a dress . . . god bless those ladies.

KP: What differentiates you from the rest of your industry peers?

DB: You are not a customer when you join us.  You become part of the family.  I can’t tell you how many mothers are trying to fix me up…

Industry Genius- David Beahm

David designed the first wedding we worked on together with these incredible hanging floating candles and flowers.  They look like they’re just floating in mid-air.  I remember my client’s face when she walked into her reception and looked up at the installation. Unbelievable.

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Now, I’ve seen some Huppahs in my life, but seriously? David doesn’t miss a beat- from the lighting, custom fabric installations, and intricate floral designs. Quite the wow factor.

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He’s so innovative.  Most of the items David works with are custom designed for each client, ensuring they have a completely unique wedding experience.  Aren’t those lighting and candle features amazing?!

Industry Genius-David Beahm

Some brides want a lot of flowers to make their wow factor statement, so I had to show this ridiculous (in a good way) Huppah made entirely of white flowers.  Complete with uplighting, what a dramatic statement for a ceremony!

Vermont Photographer: Orchard Cove Photography

Thursday, November 12th, 2009

Vermont photographer, Amanda Herzberger from Orchard Cove Photography based out of Windsor, Connecticut, recently visited Vermont for wedding.  And while we love rustic weddings, we just had to show off her incredible work. ~LS

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The couple’s wedding took place at Riverside Farm in Pittsfield, Vermont.

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Covered bridges, with it’s nostalgic and historical appeal, make for an unforgettable moment.

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The bride and groom’s autumn-inspired bouquet and boutonniere were designed by Pittsfield Garden.

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A school bus is always a fun (and cost-effective) way to transport guests to and from the ceremony and/or reception site.

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We always recommend that brides ask their wedding photographer to capture details of their wedding since so much time goes into the day.

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Speechless…

Orchard Cove Photography
Website: www.orchardcovephotography.com
Blog: www.orchardcovephotography.blogspot.com
my Kate Parker Wedding State and Budget: VT $80k+

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Massachusetts Wedding Planner – EFD Creative

Wednesday, November 11th, 2009

Massachusetts wedding planner, Edna Dratch-Parker is the owner of EFD Creative, a wedding design and event planning company based out of Massachusetts.  EFD Creative can help you with all aspects of your wedding including Complete Event Planning, Theme Design and Consulting, Custom Invitation Designs, Vendor Selection and Coordination and Web Site Design and Development.  Check out Edna in today’s vendor spotlight . . . KM

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Number of Years in Business: EFD Creative officially launched in February 2009. I’ve been planning events throughout my career—from my years as a fashion designer to more than 20 years as a graphic designer and marketer.

Preferred Locations: What I love about location is what it says about my clients. I recently did a wedding for a couple who is always outdoors – hiking, biking and just enjoying nature. Their wedding took place in the mountains in Vermont, which suited them perfectly, and inspired me in so many ways to combine the location with their personalities to create the touches and atmosphere that spoke to who they are as a couple. For me, the key aspect about location is how it serves as a backdrop to the main event — the wedding! — and its potential to showcase my clients.

Pricing Information: Because every event is unique, all pricing is determined per project. EFD Creative is available to meet for an initial free consultation.

What makes me stand out in what I do? I think what helps me stand out is my formal training as an artist and graphic designer. It is through the lens of a designer and years helping clients create the look and feel of their businesses that I approach my work as an event planner. More and more weddings are being branded in the same way, which I think is due to the growing popularity of design shows that highlight celebrity weddings, brides-to-be and other lifestyle events. People want to make a statement, and this is where I can make the most impact.

For me, it is important to understand who my clients are and what they want for their special day. From there I work to build an event that meets my clients’ hopes and dreams for their wedding day and brings artistry and an attention to detail that shines through from the first invitation to the final thank you card. Every client wants to make their “stamp” on the world as a new couple, and my goal is to help bring their vision to life. It’s such an exciting process, and the best reward is the thrill of the day when it all comes together!go

What’s the favorite part of my work? My favorite part of the job is the people. This is what event planning is about! I love working with the bride and watching her gain confidence in the process and the couple’s excitement when they see their vision become a reality! Weddings by their nature are a joyous occasion and I simply love being a part of this day. I also really enjoy the camaraderie of working with all the other vendors in the process. Everyone contributes their expertise to some aspect of the event – from the table linens to the flowers and photography. It is a grand mosaic that has to come together perfectly, and I love being the one to help guide every piece of the puzzle into place.

What do I like to do in my spare time? When I’m not running around for my business, I try to get outdoors to exercise and enjoy the fresh air! My husband has a motorcycle, so in the summer we love to take long rides, especially on Cape Cod. I also cherish my friendships and always try to squeeze in time to catch up with friends over shopping or dinner.

What charity am I supporting and why: There are three charities I support that are very important to me personally: the American Cancer Society, Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation International (JDRF) and the American Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (ASPCA). Like many families, cancer has touched mine and I try to do what I can to support research efforts that will help find a cure. My husband developed diabetes as a juvenile, and since I met him I’ve learned so much about this disease and the great work that JDRF is doing. As for the ASPCA, I’ve had cats for nearly my entire adult life and think it’s important to support the ASPCA so that cats, dogs and other animals can find happy, loving homes.

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Having golf carts is a great form of short distance transportation as they are typically quite affordable and easily accessible.
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The flowers at this wedding were done by Lilac Floral in Massachusetts.
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Cake
This beautiful cake was made by Delicious Desserts.  Notice the recurring seashell theme throughout the next couple of pictures.
Calligraphy
The silver seashell place card holders are adorable, I love the simplicity.
Invite
These Invitations were made by Edna herself and I think they came out beautifully . . .  and the seashell makes another appearance.
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flowers
A ballet wrap can be a beautiful addition your bouquet and a jeweled embellishment can really complete the design.
All Above Images by Kristin Spencer.

EFD Creative
Phone: 781.856.1981
Website: www.efdcreative-events.com
Email: info@efdcreative-events.com
myKPW State and Budget: MA $25k-$50k and $50k-$80K

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Massachusetts wedding planner EFD Creative is a member of my Kate Parker Wedding, your new online wedding resource guide launching in January 2010 geared toward directing brides to quality vendors based on their price range and state.